This is a great story about change, habits and doing something different....
THE BUS STOP SYNDROME
This rather quirky title refers to a particular way of being in much of ‘polite’ society. It is essentially a metaphor for getting on and doing things rather than procrastinating and I have used with many clients with great success.
Imagine that you had just moved to a new area and needed to catch the bus to go to work. On you first morning at this ‘new’ bus stop, you observe the other commuters there, noticing that none of them seem to know each other; they don’t speak or communicate at all.
On the second day at the same bus stop, you see one or two people who weren’t there the day before, along with a couple of others that were. Nobody speaks. Neither do you. The same thing happens on the third, fourth and fifth days and you recognise one person who has been there every day. You wonder if he/she recognises you, though there is no indicator that this is so… not so much as a ‘Good morning’. But then again, you haven’t indicated anything, either. Not so much as a ‘Good morning’. And it’s the weekend now…
On Monday, you go to the same bus stop and that same person is there again – you glance in each others’ direction… and here’s the interesting bit; if you don’t speak that day, then you probably never will. It will become a habit to see this person at the same time every day without communicating. Unless something unusual happens. If the bus drives straight past without stopping, you might say something. If it stops 100 yards from the bus stop and the engine explodes you almost certainly WILL say something. Something that is not part of the habit has happened and momentarily broken the routine, allowing you to move out of the comfort zone to break the ice.
And much of life is like that – habit. They form very quickly and unless we do something to interfere with the useless ones they can blight our life.
So why not make something unusual happen for yourself, rather than waiting at the bus stop for fate or somebody else to take a hand?
Ref: Terence Watts http://www.hypnosense.com/